7 Ways to ReWire Your Brain and Become a Better Leader
Excellent points from @jesselynstoner
It really comes down to retraining your emotions so you will “act” and not just “react”. I especially like her point about “checking your breathing” when things get tense - excellent advice for any stressful time.
"Unrequested criticism is like a drive-by shooting"
Another great tag line from @leadershipfreak
Dan gives several tips for providing truly constructive criticism. He recently did a post on “how to receive criticism like a pro” and a reader suggested he write something for those who give the criticism.
When you read his post, take time to read through the discussion at the bottom - there are some great comments.
"Leaders who lift get further than those who push down." Very true words from @leadershipfreak
Often we find ourselves dealing with very capable people, who are going through periods of self-doubt or low self-esteem. Become the encourager, not the enabler - help them to see their value to the team, remind them of the many valuable tools they have. You will not only help them fight off the negative energy that surrounds them, you will firmly establish your leadership skills.
Great opening paragraph from Jesse Lyn Stoner @jesselynstoner
"I once heard that in order to reach the moon, NASA made over a thousand mid-course corrections. At first I was surprised. If you know where you’re going, why not just set the trajectory and plot the course, like they do on Star Trek?"
The importance of intermediate goals and informal assessments is often overlooked. Never be afraid to stop and ask for directions -
"Listen, reiterate, expand…." Great tips for effective communication in any arena from @ANTVibes. Reminds us all that communication is always two-way and requires active listening and engagement. Keep it human
I’m not too proud to admit I had never heard the expression “Coalface”, but I quickly learned those are the frontline folks, the ones who find themselves at the bottom of the slow trickle of information.
Being a hugely visual learner, I loved the use of graphics to display effective communication strategies from Kevin Dwyer of @changefactory
As a small business owner, you obviously want to make a profit and a living - but did you really jump through all those hoops to open your doors not to also make a difference? Nice article to refocus our thoughts and priorities.
Fascinating research coming out of Stanford Univ. Taking the time to reaffirm what is important to you personally significantly lessens stress. Also remarkable was the finding that reviewing your family ancestry helped to build self-confidence.
Today I watched The Players’ Championship final round. Matt Kuchar and Kevin Na were in the final group. Na lead by +1 stroke as they started their round.
Na had struggled during the first 3 rounds with nerves but had found a way to fight through his inner demons and found himself in the lead on the last day of a major tournament.
As I watched their play, my thoughts went to the inner strength that is necessary to control your emotions and maintain confidence. These are the same skills necessary when you are in positions of leadership.
Kuchar and Na were on the 9th hole, a par 5 and both had hit their second shot short of the green and had equally tough chips to get close. Na’s chip went long and rolled off the green and into tall grass about 20’ away. Kuchar’s chip took him within 12’ of the hole and a good chance for a birdie. Na’s 4th shot got him out of the long grass and back onto the green but left him with an 6’ putt for par. He studied the putt, his caddie studied the putt, he stepped up….stepped away…..stepped up…..stepped back again. I could almost hear the negatives thoughts screaming inside his head. He missed the par putt to the right and tapped in for his bogey. Kuchar dropped his birdie putt. As the two players walked off the green, Kuchar walked tall with a smile and Na walked with his head down and shoulders bent.
This was such a clear reminder to me how quickly our personal leadership can shift and how critical it is to manage your inner energy (chi-force). The ability for leaders to maintain calm, positive energy in the face of stressful events is key to ultimate success.
As I write this Kuchar has built a 2+ stroke lead and has 4 holes left to play.
COMMUNICATION IS ABOUT WHAT THEY HEAR, NOT WHAT YOU SAY
For those of us who seem to have spent most of our lives trying to communicate - this message has multiple layers of meaning. To some it will mean - “it’s not my fault, I said it correctly - you just need to try harder to understand” To others (me included) it a timeless truism - we all interpret the world uniquely.
If you are attempting to communicate, even the simplest message - you have to have your audience in mind - do they have background experience with whatever it is you are conveying - try to look at your message through their eyes. Some will still not get it, but you will have a much better chance of getting your message across.
"Time is the scarcest resource and unless it is managed nothing else can be managed." ~Peter Drucker
"It takes less time to do a thing right, than it does to explain why you did it wrong." - Henry Longfellow
It’s called crunch time. These moments happen in sports all the time, it’s the moment when the game is on the line and it comes down to one play. In business, it’s usually about the timeline itself: the end of the quarter, end of the year, or more common, a milestone in a project.
If you want to be a high performing manager, you will need to FIGHT to keep your timelines intact. Most operations see timelines slide constantly, so if you are able to maintain yours consistently it will stand out for sure.
Honestly, timelines are usually such a joke in most organizations, that this one trait could put you in line for a promotion. But it isn’t easy (otherwise everyone would do it) and takes a lot:
It takes work – This should go without saying, but it’s going to take effort. You will probably need to pull a late night to maintain your timelines (and most likely at least a few). So be ready.
It takes focus – You need to be on top of people, you need to follow up on progress, and you need to ensure they understand what the project needs, RELENTLESSLY.
It takes foresight – You need to see your problems before they become problems. If you correctly see where your issues may lie, you can take steps to mitigate the risk by following up or setting up contingencies.
It takes favors – You need to have built up enough goodwill to get that “little extra effort” from others (you can’t do it yourself). So when crunch time hits, you aren’t standing alone.
In my experience, you’ll need all of these to consistently be able to meet timelines. Now if your upper management has set completely unreasonable timelines (not an uncommon practice) then this will at least help you keep closer to them than your peers. But that is a different topic for a different time.
Following through on what you say you will do is the hallmark of any great career. If you can manage time and your timelines you will gain the necessary trust from your superiors to move onward and upward.
The title intrigued me - but this concept has been so abused by the ‘name it and claim it’ crowd I almost skipped it - glad I didn’t
Each of the points made are extremely valid and on point. When we have a clear vision of what we hope to achieve, or what we want others to achieve, we subconsciously make the tiny, day-to-day decisions that allow that vision to come true.